A Typical Eid in the Introvert’s Life
General Advice For the Extroverts
- Don’t get offended: if your introverted guest is reluctant to come closer or is, what you might describe, unnaturally quiet that doesn’t mean they don’t like you or your company. They just don’t like the company at all, it's not personal! They could love you and still ignore you or try to avoid engaging with you at all costs. Seriously, it’s never you, it’s them.
- Try to understand them: instead of trying to reason with them and explaining to them why socializing is a good thing, get into their heads and understand them! Think of your most uncomfortable moment, one that makes you want to crawl out of your skin and possibly pull all your hair out. Remember that moment very well whenever you ask an introvert to do something social because this is how he/she feels when they are with other people they don’t know or even when they leave their house at all. Know that their intentions are always good and that they don’t have a mean bone in their body but that they just don’t like the same things you do. Would you try to change someone’s race or color? No. Then why would you want to change an introvert??
- If you love them, save them! When you are in the presence of an introvert who is forced into a social situation like Eid, you need to put on your supportive hat because they will need saving. When they come into your house, take them straight into an isolated room to give them time to adapt to being out of their homes. Introduce them to very few people, one at a time, but don’t make them engage in any kind of physical contact. Since they are your guests, it is your job to make up excuses to others for why your introverted guest cannot kiss them. Once all the introductions are over, make sure there is a chair that looks like it’s part of the gathering but is actually isolated and seat your introverted guest there. Once they’re seated and comfortable, they will be very happy to be left alone for the entire remainder of the evening. Also, if you really love them, just don’t invite them at all.